The Poison Giver: Bhutanese Myth or Reality?
In the remote village of Kurtoe, a woman ate
alone, slept alone and lived a lonely and dejected life. Villagers were afraid
to be her friends, afraid to eat and drink from her hand lest they die. Nobody wanted
her legs to be eaten from invisible worms from inside because of consumption of
drinks from her hand; nobody wanted his stomach to be swollen because of her
food. Her name was Tashi Wangmo and she was accused to be poison giver.
However, life for aging woman changed after visit of His Majesty, the fifth
Druk Gyalpo. His Majesty drank two cups of wine from her hand proving that she
was not as dangerous as villagers made her to be. Recently, I heard that few
people have started eating from her hand. Of course there are some who are
still cynical. They believed that she is still dangerous. ‘His Majesty was
person who had accumulated merits for last three eons and a poison get harm His
Person’ was what my mother-in-law told me. She also said if three people eat at
same time from Poison Giver, only one would be infected; the one who is less
meritorious, ill-fated and who has astrologically considered bad day.
In my village, people always used to say, ‘be a friend
with black magician and be an enemy with poison giver.’ The logic was simple. Black
magicians always destroy you through his/her sorcery from distance while Poison
Giver always harms you from close through drinks or food. As child, once I
asked my mother what should I do if the husband is black magician and wife is
poison giver? Because right next to our village, there was couple (husband and
wife) whom few people accused of being such. I ate from her generous hands
secretly but I didn’t get any poison. I still do whenever I visit my village.
If they are not home, I steal ripe tomatoes from their plant. I didn’t even get
wrath of his sorcery. Some of villagers believed that lady is not an extreme
poison giver. But my analysis is they are more afraid of him than her. Else why
would they let him preside over annual kansey
leaving more accomplished people out? Why would they be friends with them?
My first education on such existence was when I
was around eight years old. It was on 21st day of my grandfather’s
last rites. Many villagers from different communities had arrived to console
our family as tradition dictated since 21st day is last major rite
Bhutan observed for benefits of dead soul. As a child I wasn’t given any
responsibilities. I was just playing around in temporary Store Room walled by
green leaves and roofed by polyethylene sheets. The Guest Keeper of the
occasion told two of his receptionist cum waitresses in hushed word that a
Poison Giver from another community has just arrived. They were told not to mix
what she brought with what others brought. Once the gifts were in the store,
the kharang she bought was safely deposed into latrine pit and wine she brought
was deposed in an empty area. I was so curious to see her that I stealthily
followed those waitressing ladies while they were returning guests’ Torey and
Palang back. I imagined her to be like a witch in tales my sister used to
narrate before dozing off. She would be frail woman walking with a help of
stick, her hair would dragged from ground and she would be have long yellow
fangs protruding out of her mouth. When I saw her I was shocked. She was in
forties, plumb with short hair and gentle with ever ready smile. All people
near her were sitting seemingly oblivious to fact though I noticed that
throughout the night while chanting Mani, nobody was eating Aezy from her hand
while they offered theirs to her. She also ate aazey herself without attempting
to share with others.
My second tryst with so-called Poison Giver was during
my junior years in Pemagatshel. My sister has shifted to Pema Gatshel. I
followed her after a year. There was
this nice lady from nearby village. We used to buy fruits and vegetables from
her every weekend. Sometimes, we used to help her and his grandson in their
field. Villagers used to whisper into our ears about danger lurking which we ignored.
One day, my sister suffered stomach ache and cramps after eating from her
house. My sister firmly believed that she gave her the poison. She stopped even
talking to this lady which I felt sorry. After two years, her grandson also
left her accusing her of being poison giver. She was left alone. I found out
later that she stopped selling vegetables and fruits altogether.
Nobody I asked really knew about origin of Poison
Givingand how it came to Bhutan. Some believed that it might have been brought
from Tibet by Bhutanese traders. The assumption was based on notion that
Traders would be have met dying lonely lady who was trying to pass on something
or they might have bought some clothes from powerful poison giver who was
trying to get rid of menace. The deity would have secretly followed the trader
especially female one.
It is believed that deity would persuade woman to
give poison to guests. The poison giver would try hard to ignore the persuasion
because she wouldn’t want to kill just like any other normal human being. But
the mental torture she underwent would make her submit to sinful act. There was
a story of how poison giver gave poison to her son whom she loved so much. She
didn’t want to kill him but as no other people came to her house, the torture
of persuasion was beyond she could bear. So she decided to feed her son the poison.
She fried eggs on butter, and then warmed the strongest of wine. The bowl was
smoothen with butter and oil to make it slippery hoping that bowl would slipped
away from his hand before he drank. As she wanted, bowl slipped away from his
son’s hand spilling the whole poisoned wine. It was said that from spilt wine
emerged worms that were found in latrine.
It is said there would be certain characteristics
associated with poison giver. Most poison givers would be women. There were
hardly any instances where men are accused. The poison giver ladies would be
exceptionally kind and would love to share edibles like no other women. The
middle age poison giver would be widowed. It is believed that they had kill
husband by giving poison though nobody knew for sure. Call it coincidence or
what, I found out that the accused poison giver that came to my grandfather’s
rite was widowed. So was accused poison giver in pemagatshel. Likewise, there
was an accused in Mongar who was widowed too. Those poison givers seem to be
victims themselves. Some village elders say that in most cases those women
would not know to whom they have given the poison. Sometimes they might give it
to their parents, husbands and children.
In many villages in eastern Bhutan, officials on
tour would be warned not to eat from certain households by gewog officials. If
you are unofficial visitors to the village, people of the village would warn
against eating in those suspected households. I remember an incidence in remote
part Pemagatshel that my host gave us wine as aperitifs. I was doing temporary
jobs on vacation. When I told hostess ‘I don’t drink,’ she told me she didn’t
have poison. Then she cautioned us against drinking from one lonely lady of the
village.
One of my elders in village always advised me not
to drink or eat from strangers especially women. If it is unavoidable, he told
me I should glance inconspicuously thrice at ceiling. ‘And if you can afford,
please carry Zabche phorb,’ he had advised. Zab is a rare knot of tree which is
considered gem. Through I have never known why I should look at ceiling, I was
told that if you unknowingly received wine in Zabche cup, the poison would form
foam and overflowed.
He told me that passing of poison from mother to
daughter or any other could be prevented. When dying poison giver tried to pass
poison, one shouldn’t receive with hand but one should let mother’s hand touch
the partially burned wood or fringes of belt. Then, the objects should be cast
away. But this would be an insult to dying mom, so one of daughter sacrificed
her own life to inherit such menacing magic though receiver wouldn’t know how
to give poison. The poison giver can also cast away the poison according to him
but he had never heard of any concrete ways. ‘Some said it should be elaborate
ritual like offering him (probably spirit of poison) various items and foods.
The poison should be identified with some object of valued things. Then it
should be left in water or some pathways. The poison giver shouldn’t have
attachment to the thing or belief. The poison giver shouldn’t look back.
Otherwise the poison will follow. I heard one woman discarded poison like
that,” he concluded.
However, the danger is if passerby picked up that
castaway object, the poison would pass onto him/her. Probably, that is why
there was no instance of casting away the poison. May be poison giver
selflessly preferred to suffer stigma herself rather than passing something
horrible onto some innocent travelers.
In conclusion, I would state that it would be
interesting to study scientifically whether this is myth or reality. However,
in the village, it is a sensitive issue. The villagers would never directly
confront the poison giver for suspected poisoning. If it is true, what we could
do to avoid transmission of poison is not to pick valuable objects lying openly
on the ways. We could protect ourselves from being victimized by carrying
Zabchi Phorb or looking thrice at the ceiling without knowledge of hostess
otherwise if they are not giver, they would be insulted. If it is not true, the
demystification should be done. Just like my sister never talked again to that
suspected poison giver, after her death, her daughter is slowly being ostracized.
Whether poison giver is mere belief or reality, one could only imagine how much
physical and mental torture accused undergoes in their lifetimes. Even the
punishment by imprisonment is only cutting of communication whereas the
suspected poison givers suffer worst from non-communication by community as
well as incomprehensible guilt and stigma that would remain even after death.
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Wow !!
ReplyDeleteIs this type of believes also prevalent in the western part of country? Because yes in the eastern part it is very much existent and prominent.
ReplyDeleteNot very much la..
DeleteBut certain stigma lives young in the heads la..
The daughter of the woman, accused of being a poison giver was my friend and we use to eat together a lot la..
I never heard the talk of poison giver in western Bhutan. But if you have watched the film Golden Cup, the belief is there. Besides,mant Tibetans who believed also settled in western Bhutan...
ReplyDeleteWhy poison giver is usually women?
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